Comments for Teen Trauma http://teentrauma.today.com There is Light at the End of the Tunnel Sat, 07 Nov 2009 11:34:39 +0000 http://www.today.com/version-2.3.1 Comment on Race and Adoption by halahblue http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/27/race-and-adoption/#comment-11 halahblue Sun, 17 Aug 2008 00:28:26 +0000 http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/27/race-and-adoption/#comment-11 I agree with points in both the post and hauteness' comment. I am white. There are multiple mixed race couples in my family (and circle of friends)and of course bi-racial children. I have to say that a totally white bread family would not be able to give a black child a big piece of their cultural history - unless they put a lot of effort into it. That's where I believe the focus should be. Families adopting children should be given support (not monetary), advice, and be frequently checked up on about ways to teach a child about their culture - and their adoptive parents' culture. I watch my niece who is Irish and Mexican - her parents are linguists who speak Arabic and Korean and both have lived all over the world. She is only two, but she is surrounded by childrens shows with multiple languages (namely korean and spanish). She has so many bits of so many cultures in her environment. It's a beautiful thing. What I see in the US at least is as a "melting pot" all of us have lost huge parts of history. Especially as our country ages and we all belong to more and more ethnic groups, it's very difficult to pass along knowledge to your kids and grandkids. So in the case of white people adopting children of non-white ethnicities: They should be based on their ability to be good human beings, provide for a child, and then taught to be teachers. Hell, everyone who becomes a parent should be taught how to be better at it -- watching the news for 10 minutes will confirm that. Sorry, I got off on a tangent. I agree with points in both the post and hauteness’ comment. I am white. There are multiple mixed race couples in my family (and circle of friends)and of course bi-racial children. I have to say that a totally white bread family would not be able to give a black child a big piece of their cultural history - unless they put a lot of effort into it. That’s where I believe the focus should be. Families adopting children should be given support (not monetary), advice, and be frequently checked up on about ways to teach a child about their culture - and their adoptive parents’ culture.
I watch my niece who is Irish and Mexican - her parents are linguists who speak Arabic and Korean and both have lived all over the world. She is only two, but she is surrounded by childrens shows with multiple languages (namely korean and spanish). She has so many bits of so many cultures in her environment. It’s a beautiful thing.

What I see in the US at least is as a “melting pot” all of us have lost huge parts of history. Especially as our country ages and we all belong to more and more ethnic groups, it’s very difficult to pass along knowledge to your kids and grandkids.

So in the case of white people adopting children of non-white ethnicities: They should be based on their ability to be good human beings, provide for a child, and then taught to be teachers. Hell, everyone who becomes a parent should be taught how to be better at it — watching the news for 10 minutes will confirm that.

Sorry, I got off on a tangent.

]]> Comment on Monster Father In Austria by Happy http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/01/monster-father-in-austria/#comment-7 Happy Thu, 03 Jul 2008 23:14:06 +0000 http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/01/monster-father-in-austria/#comment-7 This is one of the sickest stories i ever heard.......Alas..!!!!Alas..!!! This is one of the sickest stories i ever heard…….Alas..!!!!Alas..!!!

]]> Comment on Race and Adoption by hauteness http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/27/race-and-adoption/#comment-6 hauteness Wed, 04 Jun 2008 18:28:16 +0000 http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/27/race-and-adoption/#comment-6 "but if there were enough black parents to adopt black children the law wouldn’t have been enacted in the first place." Actually, there are enough black parents, based on my own research, trying to adopt black children. They simply are not being APPROVED at the same rates as white parents. This country considers the "white way" to be the "All American" way when in actuality we are a very diverse culture and perhaps the definition of what are acceptable qualifiers for adoptive parents should be re-examined. Interesting post. www.singleinla.today.com “but if there were enough black parents to adopt black children the law wouldn’t have been enacted in the first place.”

Actually, there are enough black parents, based on my own research, trying to adopt black children. They simply are not being APPROVED at the same rates as white parents. This country considers the “white way” to be the “All American” way when in actuality we are a very diverse culture and perhaps the definition of what are acceptable qualifiers for adoptive parents should be re-examined.

Interesting post.

www.singleinla.today.com

]]> Comment on What’s Another Word For Grandma? by Danielle http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/09/whats-another-word-for-grandma/#comment-3 Danielle Fri, 09 May 2008 11:55:20 +0000 http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/09/whats-another-word-for-grandma/#comment-3 When I have children my mother wants to be called Me-Me. But there are tons of other names such as: Nannie Nanna Me-Me May-may Just to name a few.. Try looking up some terms for Grandmother in other cultures I'm sure their are some interesting ones there :) When I have children my mother wants to be called Me-Me.

But there are tons of other names such as:

Nannie
Nanna
Me-Me
May-may

Just to name a few.. Try looking up some terms for Grandmother in other cultures I’m sure their are some interesting ones there :)

]]> Comment on Sense of Entitlement Growing by danaprince http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/04/sense-of-entitlement-growing/#comment-2 danaprince Mon, 05 May 2008 12:57:56 +0000 http://teentrauma.today.com/2008/05/04/sense-of-entitlement-growing/#comment-2 I absolutely agree with you. I'm trying to instill value for money in my twelve year old while also helping him at the same time. He seems to have an understanding (most times, anyway) that we work very hard for our money. I show him the bill when we go out to dinner and talk to him about how much effort I have to put forth for every $20 I make. He used to be very careless with spending but these days seems to be taking more time and effort to spend his money wisely. It's easier to just give our kids whatever they want and need instead of teaching them the value of money and the sense of self worth when you work hard for something. I'm convinced that parents who aren't responsible in this way are setting up their kids for future financial troubles. Cheers, Dana http://healthynews.today.com I absolutely agree with you. I’m trying to instill value for money in my twelve year old while also helping him at the same time. He seems to have an understanding (most times, anyway) that we work very hard for our money. I show him the bill when we go out to dinner and talk to him about how much effort I have to put forth for every $20 I make. He used to be very careless with spending but these days seems to be taking more time and effort to spend his money wisely.

It’s easier to just give our kids whatever they want and need instead of teaching them the value of money and the sense of self worth when you work hard for something. I’m convinced that parents who aren’t responsible in this way are setting up their kids for future financial troubles.

Cheers,
Dana
http://healthynews.today.com

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